The death of holidays

I wonder when exactly holidays died at my house. When our children were small, and even up to a few years ago, holidays were about religion, getting together for a big meal, and all the other trappings. Even up to two years ago, we had the family over for dinner and an Easter egg hunt. This year, nothing. John and I went to a movie and to Bill Grey's afterwards. Part of the difficulty is the religious differences between the Ks and us. They don't observe these holidays and it is uncomfortable to try and celebrate around them. When dad was alive (so up until 4 years ago), we always made sure to plan holiday celebrations that included him. And then, holidays became painful without him. And then school took over all my spare time, and here we are. The question is, do we stay in this mode, or look for a way to move forward?